Lube! Let’s talk about it. It’s an often uncovered subject when discussing sex, but incredibly important. Lube often has a stigma around it as taboo when there shouldn’t be one. Proper lubrication is a huge part of having safe, enjoyable sex. If you’re new to lube or are having difficulty with the one you’re currently using, you might have questions about how to use lube during sex properly. We’ve got your back and are here to break down all the ins and outs of lube.

All About that Base

Did you know that not all lubes are made the same? Depending on which one you use, several different types of lube bases will vary the effects of your lubrication. 

Natural Lube

Natural lube is typically made from organic oils like coconut oil. It’s an excellent option for lubrication if your vagina is sensitive to changes in pH. Natural lubes are free of ingredients like alcohols, glycerin, parabens, petroleum, and dyes, which can be harsher on the vaginal area. However, it’s important to note that oil-based lubricants break down latex condoms and diaphragms, so using a non-latex form of protection is essential. Coconut oil tastes good too, so it’s a win-win for having fun and smelling good in the bedroom!

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Some natural oil-based lubes are combined with other organic ingredients like CBD for an enhanced intimacy experience. CBD is a cannabinoid product derived from hemp plants. CBD does not contain THC, the psychoactive compound in hemp. Instead, CBD produces a relaxing effect throughout the body. This can be especially great for intimacy, to help those with tight pelvic floors to relax, and feel more comfortable during sex. 

Water-Based Lube

Other lubes are made primarily with water, making them thin in consistency and easy to rinse off. However, this thinness means you may need to apply more to get the desired lubrication. Additionally, water-based lubricants can contain glycerin, a substance that can alter your vaginal pH, and artificial flavors or fragrances that can lead to irritation. If you tend to be sensitive down there, avoiding water-based lubes with these ingredients is best. 

Silicone-Based Lube

Finally, some lubes are made with silicone-based ingredients. Silicone-based lubes tend to be more slippery than water-based lubes and require less application. However, you should never use silicone-based lubes with silicone sex toys, as they can break down the material of the toys. No need to lose your favorite vibrator by accidentally using the wrong lube! To protect your toys, use a natural lube or water-based lube instead. 

Do You Need Lube? 

Yes! While the vagina provides some natural lubrication, often it’s not enough to avoid pain during intimacy. It’s very common for people with vaginas to experience small tears within the vagina during sex if there’s not enough lubrication. Umm, ouch! These tears can lead to unwanted bleeding and pain. While your vagina is a powerhouse, you can’t let it do all the work. 

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Lube is especially important for those who suffer from vaginal dryness; this is most often caused by hormone imbalances that result in a lack of natural vaginal lubrication. To avoid pain during sex, using lubricant is key. In the case of chronic pain during intercourse, CBD-based natural lube can be incredibly beneficial due to CBD’s pain and inflammation-reducing properties. 

How to Find the Right Lube for You

Finding the right lube is a process of trial and error. You’ll probably have to try a few different ones to see which is right for you. Suppose you’re worried about your vagina’s sensitivity levels. In that case, you can test a lube on your skin to see if there’s a reaction or put a small amount on the external area of the vagina to see if you experience any stinging or burning. If you need extra help relaxing your body during sex, try a CBD-based lube to see if it helps increase your comfort when you’re getting intimate. 

The bottom line: we shouldn’t be afraid to talk about lube! Lubrication is a process that’s necessary for intercourse, and most of the time, vaginas need a little bit of extra lubrication to avoid pain or possible tears. Don’t be afraid to try different lubes to find the right one that works for you. Suppose you’ve got a sensitive vagina and want to avoid artificial ingredients. In that case, you might want a natural lube made of easy-to-absorb coconut oil (plus the bonus of CBD!), or if you’re dedicated to using latex condoms as your form of protection, you’ll want to try a water or silicone-based kind. Whatever your needs, there’s a lube out there for you!

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